An Introvert's Guide to Being an Extrovert

I'm a "short term extrovert."

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Those of you who know me well probably know that I am an introvert.

Those of you who only hear about what I do through my emails and blog posts, or who have only met me at things like writing conferences, might have guessed I lean more toward the extrovert side.

The truth is, I’m just an introvert who has become pretty good at being a “short term extrovert”.

Keeping up my social stamina all day long while talking to new people and old friends is not what what comes naturally to me, but it is something that I think can be worth doing.

When I go to conferences, I want to make the most of my time. And even if my social battery is draining, I still carefully choose to go outside of my comfort zone and talk to people instead of constantly staying in the quieter areas like I might prefer.

Why? Because going out of your way blesses people. Setting aside your personal comforts pays off. Maybe it’s harder for introverts and quiet people to go up to speakers and attendees and introduce themselves, but if they don’t, those speakers and attendees will never hear the needed words introverts have to say.

Now, to be clear, I’m not trying to say that I’m perfect at being at being a “short term extrovert”. The first conference I went to, I memorized a script I planned to use when I talked to a specific author. The first retreat I went to, I had to skip lunch one day to recharge in my hotel room.

So, I’m not perfect, but I’m learning and I’m growing and I’m choosing to step outside my comfort zone and bless people. I’ve had authors tear up when I give them gifts, have stayed in contact with people I meet at events, and have even made local friends from some of these conferences and festivals.

I’m also not saying that introversion is bad. The world needs both extroverts and introverts, and introverts’ quiet ways and listening and attentive ears can be just what people need. They’re typically more in tune to what’s going on in the background, and that’s a needed and beautiful thing.

If you’re an introvert, I hope this post encourages you! Take small steps (email an author, make it a point to talk to one speaker at your next event), but don’t hold back just because you’re an introvert.

And extroverts, I hope this post encourages you as well! I learn a lot about social interaction from extroverted friends, and am thankful the world has more outgoing and socially sure people.

Let me know in the comments, are you an introvert or extrovert?